Sink // Brand New
You wanna sink, so I’m gonna let you.
Ladies (and dudes), let’s talk for a minute about the word “slut.”
This term exists solely to shame women into “socially appropriate” behavior and police their sexuality. This term exists to remind women that their bodies, their sexuality, their minds, and their mouths are not their own, but belong to society, which gets to determine how, when, where, and why their bodies get to be used by society—which, btw, usually means men.
If a woman dresses in a way that society does not like, acts in a way that society does not like (and the acts that will get you labeled a slut are hardly limited to the sexual), or has sex in a way that society does not like (i.e. YOU ENJOY IT), then she is labeled a slut. It is hoped that by employing this shame term, women will go scurrying back to acting in a way that is not in any way threatening to men or to the patriarchal status quo.
There is absolutely nothing inherent about the number of sex partners a person has had—or the perceived number of sex partners a person has had, as the case more often is—that is indicative of whether a woman has respect for herself. If anything, I tend to think that the women who use this term are probably the ones with a self-respect issue. After all, a woman with self-respect knows she doesn’t have to set up comparisons based on an arbitrary, inaccurate, and sexist standard between herself and other women so that she can feel good about herself.
Dudes who use this term use it because they think it’s an easy way to shut a woman up or discredit her. Either way, they win.
Please. Unless you like to think of yourself and all women as public property subject to public authority and control, you shouldn’t use this word. EVER.
omg fucking YES.